1 You Basically No Longer Have Sex. There is a difference between experiencing a general. lack of interest in sex. , and not feeling sexual towards your partner specifically. If the thought of having sex with your boyfriend is as appealing as drinking a warm fish milkshake, but you are regularly pleasing yourself when he is not around, well. The Rules Book. According to The Rules: Time-tested Secrets to Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, you should never see a man more than 5-6 times a week unless you’re married. I do agree with this rule, but only to a certain extent. Obviously, once you’ve been dating for a significant amount of time, you will start seeing each other almost.